How I Shifted My Perspective In 60 Seconds
UnF*ck Your Life In 1 Minute
Last week I woke up at 1 am from a deep sleep from stomach pains. Less than a minute later, I was projectile vomiting and shivering. This continued, non-stop for the next few days. I was literally asking God to take me now.
I was traveling, as I normally am during the week. Stuck in my hotel room and alone. I couldn’t do a damn thing. No getting on the computer, no phone. Just sleep, bathroom, repeat.
Meanwhile, my wife was sick at home and my three year old was getting sick too. After I conjured up the will power to make the three hour drive home, I received some more bad news, then some more.
I said to my wife, Fuck My Life! And this thought pervaded my mind for the following week. I lost my motivation, my ambition and the will power to keep grinding.
Some of the bad news I received was a result of actions I had taken (or not taken), some of was well, just fucking life. I eat healthy, I workout regularly, I get enough rest and I have a comfortable work/life balance.
I was fed up with the traveling, and being away from my family all week, every week for almost two years now. Couple this with being stuck in a hotel room, extremely sick and not able to get home for comfort and to comfort my family.
This wasn’t the first time I was “stuck”. Just a few months prior, as my dad lay in hospice during his last days, an extreme fire broke out in our little town of Santa Barbara. I had to leave him in hospice and go home to help evacuate my family, which was mandatory by the city.
That next afternoon, my father passed away.
Just a couple of weeks later, back in Los Angeles and away from my family, the town next door to us (just a mile away from our house) was struck in the middle of the night with a devastating mudslide. The main way in and out of Santa Barbara was shut down for weeks.
As always, I looked for the lesson amidst all this angst. And I believe I found it. I read a quote not too long ago that goes something like this:
“The problem is not the problem. It’s your attitude towards the problem that’s the problem.”
That shook me and resonated with me. After I said to my wife ‘Fuck My Life!” on the phone, I quickly stopped myself from spiraling in to an eclipse of negative thoughts. I quickly assessed all of the good things that are happening in my life – my family, my career, my flexibility in my schedule. The fact that I’m able to do what I am passionate about and have the ability to impact many people’s lives in a positive way every day. The fact that I’m capable of and improving myself and designing the life I truly want to live.
I did a simple mind shift to focus on the good things. To find reason and lessons from the bad. The fact that I didn’t get that opportunity, well maybe I would have given up a lot of other things that are getting me even close, even faster towards my primary goals. There’s a reason, probably more than one. I think they did me a favor. The universe gave me yet another sign and another lesson at the same time.
A simple mind shift took me from Fuck My Life to I Love My Life.